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We have lots of issues:
I can’t end having Ubers
, my personal amazing 26â³ locks extensions seem to be tangled and matted from crude sex, and I’m dizzy 24/7 from refusing to dish prep and thriving on Luna Bars. But probably my personal *biggest* problem, the one which provides myself by far the most shook, is I have a crush to my ex-girlfriend’s sweetheart.
I’m sure, I understand, it really is like biggest infraction of
lady signal,
like
actually ever
. But it’s a-v typical lesbian issue!
Charlie* came across Gigi* on Tinder, even as we sat side-by-side swiping together, one of our numerous queer companion rituals. Charlie was actually too anxious to transmit 1st information, very after I slugged my vodka soft drink right back, we grabbed her phone and messaged Gigi. “You appear cool. Want to get products?”
A day later, Charlie labeled as me at 4 am after their basic big date. She ended up being high on conversation and pricey wine. She had it wrong straight away.
Once I came across Charlie, we realized precisely why.
I found myself at Stonewall with GO exec publisher Zara Barrie and her fiancee Meghan
. We were approximately 6 beverages deeply, and screaming YASSSS at everybody else and everything. However spotted their.
She is one particular magnetically black sexy lesbian that
no body
is protected to. Like, you never even have becoming queer to need to f*ck this lady (this has already been verified by my direct roommate).
Gigi ended up being using a leather-based bodysuit and thigh large footwear. She’s got a disheveled platinum-blond pixie cut and an impossibly symmetric face. She’s male electricity it is femininely beautiful. She will get any person around their a drink.
“that is Gigi!!!!!!!” Charlie slurred, holding to both of us.
“Let’s do shots!” Gigi stated, laughing. I became therefore intoxicated by how hot they certainly were with each other I completely forgot I was clutching a collection of complimentary beverage tickets. We slugged right back the tequila, feeling it warm my esophagus together with one of those inebriated “I like my pal so f*cking a lot” moments. Charlie felt thus genuinely delighted, and so comfortable. Though we definitely found the woman sweetheart hot AF, i discovered my pal’s pleased power more important. However, Gigi’s sternum tattoo would peek around between her cleavage, or she’d efficiently move her hips, or she’d touch my neck, or see myself with her smoldering blue-eyes and I’d get the twat flutters.
We sought out once again additional night (
Cubbyhole
, holla) and watching Gigi and Charlie kiss helped me consider,
ugh, i’d like that.
Though I do contain it? I became with a lady I’m online dating and now we were as everywhere both as Charlie and Gigi, or even more. I found myself putting on corset leggings, rendering it amazingly convenient receive ~naughty~ on the dancing floor, knowing what I mean. But also Ryan*, the lady I’m witnessing was actually like, “wow him/her along with her sweetheart are actually hot.” They have been one among those hot ass swag lesbian lovers that everybody cannot help but be shook by.
Will it be socially acceptable for us to feel interested in my personal ex-girlfriend’s girlfriend? No. Can it be against friend rule? Yes. Is it entirely normal, though? Yes. Humans tend to be unpleasant, and often the feelings are sloppy. What I believe on her is similar momentary interest I believe towards every hot lesbian I experience â the appeal that reminds me that i am real, the interest that reminds me I am the gayest individual ever. The interest that reminds myself simply because
somebody is actually off-limits
, or since you’re matchmaking some body, doesn’t mean that basic human being reactions to hot men and women go-away.
What I do is glance at the situation in all honesty. Acknowledge it: i believe my personal ex-girlfriend’s girl is hot, big f*cking price â thus really does everyone. Thus I can not write out with her (one, i might never ever accomplish that and two, this woman is sickly in deep love with my good friend). And then i will consider it similar to this: i will be very fortunate to have a queer best friend (albeit my ex-girlfriend, #lesbianproblems) and an extra swaggy hot lez to our queer girl team. I am pleased on her behalf because she’s gorgeous inside and out, and is deserving of a hot ass girl. It is incredible how evolved you are able to become should you decide only allow you to ultimately confess how petty and immature you often at first feel.
Being pals along with other queer women, within the queerest locations in the world, this lez-overlap can be sure to happen. Sets of hot lesbians will hang out, tourist attractions will probably be sensed. One has to be prepared to preserve their particular priorities at these times. Most times, a friendship is way more essential than a fleeting interest. My personal ex-girlfriend’s girl is hot, her next sweetheart would be, my subsequent sweetheart will be, my ex-girlfriend’s subsequent sweetheart are. This is the lesbian circle of life.
